[kenneth s]

Way to go Jon B!

You’re doing it all just right!
This woman seems to really like you and so keep it going. It’s effortless when she becomes helpful and does the emotional heavy lifting and now just let that keep happening, let her bring it to you so the best thing to do is…. tada! NOTHING. You don’t have to act on your emotions and that will surely turn her off. I bet she’s looking forward to seeing you at the concert with her friends and the trick is not to let her know how you feel about any of it. If you want to go to her then go to her! The fastest way to mess this up is to overthink based on fears or anxiety. You showed her confidence; presence and she escalated. Relax…. breathe…. she’s going to pursue you for sure but the recipe calls for time and space and you can tease her a bit for fun from time to time for some spice and be effortless, open, playful and focused on you and your daughters, priority numero uno! If you mess up just own it then move on because this is your legacy, and your girls need to see Dad not be bent or shaken. Much love!

[kenneth s]

Hwy Justin K
I had read your OP and it’s totally cringe worthy. I like Dr Sys’ replies and the “feel” he’s giving you some direction and to a great calming centered effect.

I see a lot of mistakes that were made from being nervous and you can learn to relax because no real damage was done, and I’ll point out the 800 Lb gorilla in that your timing is all off. Put yourself in her shoes such as when you turned to her in class when she sat behind you.
It’s random and I’m guessing you’re thinking of triggering her somehow so she’s automagically going to take you down?? That’s not leading or even flirting or fun- not for you and not for her.
I’m learning myself and what’s helped me is just not giving a thought towards sex. Just eliminate it! It’s not the idea of that you are pretending it’s the decision and so you can focus on your study and your life because she and probably others will pick up on your vibe which is distracting, and they are there to learn too.
Not focusing on winning her sets you free and you can be a man who has a mission and when the time is right you can create space and time for you.
You can get yourself into a lot of trouble at this place if you just keep up with what you’re doing by making people feel uncomfortable and so just be more grounded and focus on you and learning a plan and a flow and in timing when it presents itself.
Like I said I’m learning too myself and what helps is staying grounded and not fixated on expectations where there is no path to it.

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