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Whether or not she is interested is not the critical question. It may feel (and often does) like its the most important question, but it is a question that YOU can insure is answered the way you want. by staying in control and showing your value in that process. That doesn’t mean you show disinterest, but it means you show her those things that a woman wants – and has to EARN.
Does the call make “sense” – as far as the “what”, yes – but the “why” is the problem. You told her one thing and DID something different. A woman wants a man she can rely on, depend on and trust. Did your choice of action show that is you for her?
Ultimately, whether she was chasing you or not, it is clear she isn’t now. That doesn’t mean you should chase. Rather it means one text, about halfway through the “break” while she is away is something you can use to remind her that she has something to return to soon. Don’t promise anything, let her mind and imagination work for you. Dont get into a conversation, a quick and short message and a follow up reply is she responds quickly and provides an opening – but you have value and a life so your focus should not be on “her”…..
Has TSM or have I ever encouraged a guy to “chase”?
If your chasing, by definition she is “running away”.
Are you ever going to get this right? I dunno, I can’t see the future nor can I determine how much self control, discipline and awareness you may have going forward.
So let’s jump in. First off, stop trying to defend why your interest is solely in “Asian” type women. Everyone has preferences and its your life, so you are allowed the choice. Yes, eliminating other types of women means you loses opportunities you could have had – but that’s common sense and you can choose to accept that or adapt, up to you. No judgement either way from me.
Now more specific to this situation, you know you made some mistakes. Question is, do you know WHY you made those mistakes? You should – and its referenced at the start of this reply. You are not in control of yourself – because you see her as “so damn cute” and she is your prize that you seem to want to win. Even your question of what do to over the break shows it – does it even make sense to try to pursue– and the answer is no, not currently. Once you have your head on straight, then possibly it can be fine to open the door – but NOT to “pursue”.
Note-Admins, this really does need to go functional for the community.
Now, on to the answer:OK, this is NOT covered directly within TSM, but it IS covered indirectly – because the OP admits (and OWNS – way to go Brother!) that he is feeling out a little out control of his own emotional investment. Knowing this, its good because he DOES have it under control, at least on the date this was posted. Whether for the OP, or for our other Brothers – remaining in control of our own emotions is where a guy has to start. Its easy to get caught up in the “feels”, whether in the moment or in the afterglow (up to a couple of days or so later). Women act based on emotion way too much, as MEN – we should avoid this. As HVM (High Value Men), it is critical we do not fall into acting emotionally.
This works but there seems to be no active forum for TSM. Is there a timeframe for this one to go active? Many newer folks could use input from what I hear.